A healthy, secure-functioning relationship provides a safe harbor for each person, a separate world of security and comfort and nurturing where each partner is seen and cared for. This harbor or separate world gives each member of the couple the boost of regulation and nurturing that they need to take on challenges, problem-solve, and face the issues that any day may give. This harbor or separate world is called the “couple bubble” in PACT

Hey sis, this healing choice by choice stuff it not at all for the weak.

What is PACT? Understand the difference between the primitive mind and the ambassador mind.

What is attachment based couples therapy and who is it for?

Do you have any fear or apprehensions about therapy that you want me to know about?

This is a question I typically ask at some point during my first session with clients.

I work with a lot of Millennial and Gen-Z women in therapy, especially BIPOC millennial and Gen-Z women, and there are certain things over the year that I hear over and over again.

What is intellectualizing and what makes it a good thing (sometimes)? Intellectualizing is one of your minds many defense mechanisms, once you understand what it is, how it works, and what it might be protecting you from you can understand how to shift patterns of intellectualizing.

Stop reserving celebration for special occasions.

Change is natural and beautiful and hard and overwhelming. Here are some practices for connecting with and embodying openness to change.

Being the first person in your family or close community to heal may mean you are challenging norms and the people around you without even trying to and they may respond like they are being challenged.

How to navigate being the first in your family or close community to reach a level of healing. This can feel like a place of responsibility and privilege, freedom and burden, connection and isolation. Here are some things that may happen and support in how to understand and navigate them.

When you are the first in your family to reach a level of healing or to transform intergenerational trauma you may find that you are drawn to different relationships. Here is some guidance on how to navigate these relational shifts

Roles, expectations, and binary tell us we have to choose between softness and strength. Explore a somatic (mind-body) approach to finding your softness and strength.

Learn about somatic therapy, the principles behind it, and what makes it such a powerful way to move towards healing.

Understanding somatic therapy and why we take a somatic approach to healing